I have been super busy lately and consequently there has been an embarrassing lack of posts on my part. I hope to post more over the coming weeks as I have made some lovely new autumn purchases that I would love to share. But for now I have a little bit of advice to give that someone amazing has given to me recently and if it helps just one person, I will be extremely happy.
Lately my mind has tended to switch to the negative rather than the positive. I find that I often look at the behaviour of others towards me in an accusing way, searching for a negative or manipulative explanation as to why they have done or said something.
This is something I have struggled with for most of my life. A feeling of insecurity and inadequacy that has led me to assume others believe they are better and stronger than me. I am a chronic over thinker and therefore severely over analyse situations and find negative sources for most things. I am often suspicious of people rather than just accepting them for who they are and recognising their character. Sometimes I think it’s a method of protection- by always preparing for and assuming the worst. Then I can feel that I expected the situation and got it right.
Given that this frame of mind is frankly, quite exhausting, I am attempting to change my mindset in a bid to be rid of tiring thoughts and replace them with positivity and acceptance.
A lot of time can be wasted being angry and frustrated at behaviour and situations that are beyond our control, and therefore I hope to no longer dwell on or over analyse these things and just focus on the best person I can be.
Someone close to me has recently helped me see beyond my internal anguish and confusion by telling me that there are things that are not worth the energy, given that people just are who they are. The only way to be happy is to change your thoughts within as it is not what is around us that can change, but the way we view it.
I can feel my thoughts changing already, and as long as keep reminding myself not to be critical and to accept my own personality along with that of others, positivity and content will follow.
Thank you Lisa